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The senior year transition

 My senior year is being wrapped up and I am kind of fragile on the fact that I will be going to college in less than three months. High school was actually cool for me. I had some really great educators, learned some cool things, and most importantly met some awesome people. 

First day of senior year 2016 at Cass Technical High School. Left-right; Alonna, Dana, Jada, Lanay, Micah.

I was so bummed about leaving high school and the thought of leaving my daily schedule shocked me. In high school I was very active and I maintained a B average on every report card. Something I was active in was fashion club, DECA, BPA, newspaper, and mentoring.I think being active made my social skills very flexible. I was always trying new things like for example my junior year I danced in the band and although I ended up quitting I met some great people.

  I would over all say high school was great! If I could give any tips about my senior year I would say. 

1. Apple early. Know your deadline and be on top of all dates

2. Find a prom date early. Everyone is going to start to get taken very fast when December/January hits.

3.Pick easy teachers. Don't get to senior year and think you'll randomly become Einstein your chances are limited to 0.

4.Love your parents and their rules because you won't have to listen to them once/if you move away after graduation.

5. Don't be in a rush to do what the older people are doing.You are literally around the corner from adult hood.

6.Keep your options open on what college you want to attend.

7. You can go into college undecided if you feel like you don't know what you want to be. ITS OKAY TO NOT ME OKAY

8. Get recommendation earlier emailed ( NOT A PDF) so you can change them around when you need them.

9. Don't trip on friends, you'll probably never see those people ever again.

Why are you a virgin?

A Virgin is a person who has never had sexual intercourse.

I could blame my selfishness or the way I watched women be degraded mentally and physically by men or the way my girl in the seventh grade was rapped and birthed a baby boy who'll grow up with no father or the woman who lives a lonely life because she received aids from her down low gay ex husband....or that I haven't met any one who truly knows my worth. The average African American woman in America has lost her virginity at the age of sixteen. Clearly, I have beat this statistic by far...Not intentionally though. 

  Love is cool and all.....I've just never been given it. Think about every couple you know. As I kicked it with my older homies they brought a valid point up; how many truly happy couple do you know? One in a million. I know ONE truly happy married couple....I'm not talking money and riches I'm talking about true love. It's not found for fun or on accident.... I am not saying I'm ready for something very uncommon to happen or rain down on me but I believe in my odds. I'd rather die with faith rather then love with doubts/regrets. I have faith that the good will be attracted to me before or after marriege, it'll be out of faith to believe and courage to wait.

   The genuine and authentic love I give was never given back to me. I am a young woman so I have much time to feel the real thing, but speaking from experiencing I know I haven't yet. I probably thought I did when I was in my young kiddy relationships..it was all child's play. When you're young you're easily intimidated at the thoughts of love and sex...I'm no saint I used to have many times when I wanted to have sex, when I had a boyfriend many years ago, but before I did there was always the truth in the back of my head knowing I wasn't ready. At eighteen, I see I was not missing out on much. I probably missed a few good in the moment feelings but I also missed a heart break and boys who I would've invintually would've grown away from. I see this all in hindsight. I didn't miss out on much by not having sex in grade school.

  I'm not in a rush to be entitled to any one. I know how my love works, Actually I don't know how love works but I know how lust looks. When I love someone I am ready to go to war for them and due for them. Until I feel that I never want to feel entitled to you sexually if I am not spiritually. I never let anyone rush me with anything— I love my motion.

 Sex comes with entitlement. Anyone you have sex with.... You'll have a picture of their body in your head and the music their bodies make. You have entered their temple and they've given you visual and action. Sex is spiritual and a delight according to New York Blogger. It's a bliss of joy and a physical connection to women. Why would I ever give you my joy and physical energy if I don't vibe with you mentally?

*Dont get my wrong it may be beautiful to you but I can't speak from experience. LOL

  I am a beautiful, light tan, smart woman... People expect off hand looking at me "She is not a virgin" just because the way my body is fully formed. People may think MANY things about you but know who you are. Now that I'm older I see that no one really cares. In high school people actually care about "body counts"....but in the real world none cares. It's your business! Have sex with a million men, that is your body!

  Virgin or not respect your temple. Stay true & confident in your sexual discipline. Ultimately that's the only thing NO ONE can take away from you. Live it your way.

A man needs a woman

  A man needs a woman.

From watching his mother sing and get dressed,

to watching her iron his Sundays best.

A man needs a woman.

The way his father never cherished women,

or the way his uncle loved his wife.

A man needs a woman.

Seeing his mother struggle to feed his siblings,

and hustling to try and help her.

A man needs a woman.

Studying his mothers mistakes,

and teaching his sisters how to pave a better way.

A man needs a woman.

To help understand the way we think,

evaluating a woman.

A man needs a woman.

A breath of relief,

when he finally tells his mother "This woman is for me."

A man need a woman

To kiss his heels after a very long day,

or to pick up his pieces of his mistakes.

A man need a woman.

To bear his child,

to raise his seed with.

A man needs a woman.

Many speculations occur,

he finds answers in his woman

A man needs a woman.

To love him

like the world will never.

A man needs a woman.