As a young woman, I have struggled numerous times with feeling like I was not good enough. Not having a Mother to play a Major roll in my life or not having much support at all mentally played a big role in my challenges, But I have overcome. I am now realizing ,as I transition into adulthood, that my struggles may not have played the antagonist but the hero. In most cases we hear unfortunate stories about adults who have blamed their parents situations on their lack of success. This is not going to be me. Every person living and breathing has a true purpose, and that is to for fill destiny. My destiny has been established and in order for me to find happiness I am mastering the idea of letting go. Many thoughts may go through your head and you wonder, “Why me?”. This battle was meant for you and you will overcome.
High School has played a major role in my character as well. I have always been a privileged person when it came to my image. I have beautiful hair, I stand five feet-seven inches from the ground, and I have perfect teeth . Being pressured into beauty pageants, older men always acknowledging me, or even being judged off of the way certain things fit on me; can pressure a hopeless child into the wrong destiny. Situations taught me that I don’t have to be model if that’s not what makes me happy. I do not have to talk to older men to make me feel loved. Nor do I have to change the way I dress because I am full figured or because I can not keep up to a expectation that my peers hold. People judge me and say that I look “Too good, or too Boigie to converse with”, because of the way I appear. They don’t know that I grew up very insecure or that I grew up with out a mother to nurture me and teach me about the young men that admire me. I never let this hinder me, and I always use it as a tool to build character. “Even Oprah Winfrey continually searches for deeper understanding of who she is and where she belongs in this world.”, noted on Oprah.About.Com.
We tend to shift the way we look towards who is watching; Caring too much about the wrong things. We enjoy having young men who adore us when our focus is completely adrift. I was never focused on men because they will always be around, but the chance to receive an education may not be. Michelle Obama spoke with “Let Girls Learn” an initiative group to empower girls and women through education. The campaign keeps referencing the number 62 million. It’s the number of girls, around the world, who are not able to receive an education. She explained her experiences with men and how education was always her main focus. Explaining that an educated woman is far wiser than a woman with no education. Also, how the right man will find you on the path to receiving your diploma. Obama stressed, “If I had worried about who liked me or who thought I was cute when I was your age, I wouldn’t be married to the President of the United States today.” Discussing with teens how the relationships and friendships you chose to condone in should not affect how you perform academically. “There is no boy at this age that is cute enough or interesting enough to stop you from getting your education.” Obama mentioned. Attending a school with over two thousand students can make things very competitive; financially and academically. Over 70% of girls age 15 to 17 avoid normal daily activities, such as attending school, when they feel bad about their looks. As young women we should know that confidence is imperative. We are just as good as the next young woman walking past us daily. Instead of discussing our issues with confidence we are mean and envious of the next young lady.
Usually when feeling down I tune into my many motivational novels. My all time favorite that I’ve read thus far was by Hill Harper, “Letters To My sister”, A life changing book. Mr.Harper stressed the concept of following true destiny , “Change will come-and it will be in stages-and one day, everywhere you go,people will notice different,positive shifts in who you are vs. who you were.” Manifesting your destiny may mean that you can’t do or have certain things that benefit the woman you are meant to be. This is all meant for you, and the best way to prepare is to work on your inner beauty.
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